Much Of The Mind’s Energy Is Spent Avoiding Discomfort

Much of The Mind's Energy Is Spent Avoiding Discomfort

From my earliest days of growing up, I sensed my father was afraid.

I don't know what he might have been uncomfortable with, except he had four kids to take care of and a wife who seemed to regularly be in and out of the hospital.

Our memories are not accurate, so as we look back, our minds are trying to piece together a story that fits the narrative we are engaging in with our inner voice.

However, the fact we didn't talk about fears or desires in our family left me on my own to make it up.

I decided unconsciously to make my life as specific as possible. I needed to know where I stood and could get my bearings at any moment.

Of course, being sure about anything is a delusion we create to harness the discomfort we feel in our bodies and minds.

Heck, I even married an engineer the first time around, who taught me the power of organizing, solving, and planning even more forcefully.

I was left with that I did not understand or feel my sensitivity to the world. I didn't know any better than to make my life as specific as possible.

Nothing is certain.

You only need to listen to the news for a few minutes to know how uncertain our world is.

I lucked out on my second marriage when I found Kerry.

She is intuitive, creative, sensitive, and so much in tune with her energies.

Boy, have I learned a lot from her about handling the gremlin voice that tries to keep me on track through my planning and organizing. Old behaviours die a torturous death when they are ingrained early in life.

Now, I can live in an uncertain world, like writing this article and not knowing what might come from my mind  to be put on paper in the next second.

There is no question there is a positive aspect to having certainty in our lives.

There is also great benefit in learning to live with discomfort in our lives.

Sit with the discomfort and feel it. What does it feel like?

Listen to your gremlin voice and see what it is saying. Perhaps there is valuable information for you.

Then ask yourself, what is the next best thing for me to do now?

Shall I continue the conversation with my gremlin, or is there something else I would prefer to engage in at the moment?

We can use up a lot of time pondering on the discomfort in our lives.

We can also thank our gremlin for sharing, send it to its room and get on with the contribution we will make to today's world.

Namaste