Coaching With Joshua - What Do You Need in This Moment?
What do You need at this moment?
It is once again a beautiful morning.
I am in awe as I stand for a few minutes and watch the sunrise washing my beautiful garden with a soft iridescent light. The plants shine with the morning dew.
The plants stretch as they wake up with the warmth of the sun streaming on to them.
How could I ever think there is not abundance, love, and growth when I am so privileged to be a witness to this early morning rise.
Joshua and I are in the garage talking about life, which has become a regular ritual.
He asks me, “Howard, what do you need at this moment?”
I pause for a moment as I consider the question.
“Peace in my heart.”
“How is peace in your heart created?”
“The morning ritual I follow, including meditation, walking my dog, and sitting quietly in concert with my garden, is what creates peace for me.”
“You have given me a beautiful description of how you bring peace to your heart.
How do you maintain this way of life during your day?”
“It is more challenging to maintain peace with the distractions of the day.
I have to retain my moment to moment awareness of where I am and what I am doing.
I take breaks during the day.
I don’t try to push through for hours without letting up.
Meditation and quiet time are part of my mid-day routine and late afternoon time out.
These quiet breaks in the work routine are essential to maintaining my peaceful heart.
From time to time, I stop and ask myself what I need at the moment.
It is a useful practice to bring me back to my heart.
Thanks for asking Joshua.”
“You are welcome.
Notwithstanding your routine description, you are not present with your family or with yourself, for that matter.”
“This is news to me. What do you see?”
“What I observe is you isolating yourself. You don’t pay attention to how you dress when you go out, and you are not having heart connected conversations with your wife.
What do you notice is going on in the life that has caused you to isolate and disconnect.
By the way, you are disconnected from yourself as well as the outside world.”
“Hmm, I notice I have a non-specific anxious feeling.”
“Right, when you have that feeling, your automatic response is to disconnect.
Why?
Simply because that is the place you feel safe.
There is a lack of safety at this time in the world.
There is a lot of uncertainty and negative media.
You learned this disconnection habit a long time ago, growing up when information and experiences went in without discernment.
Your automatic response comes from the unconscious, which we know directs 95% of daily human activity.
How do you change this habit?
Bring it conscious. You have now done this.
Recognize you are safe where you are.
Keep up your daily routine of self-care.
Most importantly, train yourself to be consciously aware of your presence.”
Namaste